Bedtime Confidence: Calm Nights, Happy Mornings

Bedtime can be one of the most challenging parts of parenting. Children who are tired, overstimulated or anxious can struggle to settle. But with the right approach, bedtime can become a calm, connected part of your day.

The goal isn't to find the 'correct' bedtime routine — it's to help your child discover what helps THEIR brain and body get ready for sleep. Every child is different.

For some children, screens and devices can make winding down more difficult, particularly when content is stimulating or used close to bedtime. However, devices may also provide communication, comfort, predictability, connection or a calming activity for some children — particularly those with additional needs.

Instead of rigid rules, try:

• Lower screen brightness or use night settings

• Choose calm, familiar content

• Avoid highly stimulating games immediately before sleep where possible

• Keep volume comfortable

• Create a predictable wind-down routine

• Gradually transition away from activities if stopping suddenly causes distress

• Offer alternative calming activities

The most important thing is not to imply that a parent is doing something wrong if their child uses a device as part of regulation or their bedtime routine. The goal is to help families discover what helps THEIR child move towards feeling calm and ready for sleep.

Support, not compliance.